Being a Skinny Guy in a Fat World Being a skinny guy is challenging enough in a world where everyone else is at a “normal” weight, but when more than half of the people in this country are overweight it’s downright tough. Everywhere you look there are weight loss products, on TV, magazines, billboards and in every store you shop in. Fat free, low-fat, low carb…this stuff is everywhere, taunting you. The message all around you is “lose weight, lose weight”, but that’s the last thing you want to do. Most products that are designed to help people achieve their ideal body are created for people who need to lose fat and they just won’t work for you. You want to have a body like the one you see in those commercials, but somehow it seems out of reach for you. Another downside to being a skinny guy in a fat world is that nobody understands you. It would be totally inappropriate to call an overweight person “fatty” and poke fun at them and you could probably get fired from your job if you did that at work. But, people have no problem calling you “slim” or “bony” or poking fun at you for being skinny. The name calling and joking around at your expense may be just as demeaning and hurtful, but it isn’t politically incorrect because people think that being skinny is preferable to being fat, I suppose. But, come on, not for a guy! Guys are supposed to be strong, muscular and confident, not skinny and weak. Even though it is supposedly preferable to be skinny, you can tell that even the chubby guys get more respect than you do. And when it comes to women? Forget about it. No contest at all. The chubby guy gets more dates than you do. Women want a strong man and even the chubby guy has bigger muscles and more strength than you do. The totally in shape muscular guy? Well he has more dates than he knows what to do with. Maybe you don’t want to date every girl in town, but guess what? It sure is great to have options. Skinny guys don’t have as many options. There are only so many women that are interested in skinny guys and they may not be the type of woman that you want to date and possibly marry someday. I can tell you why that is, too. No woman wants to date a guy with a smaller waistline than they have. Even a slender gal has a problem with that; it makes her feel fat. The bottom line is: being a skinny guy in a fat world is just no fun at all. You don’t get the respect you want at home or at work. You don’t get as many dates as the more muscular, or even worse the chubby guy gets. You have less confidence, which means you don’t always take the chance to go for the things you really want in life. You’re a smart guy and you are capable of so much more than this in your life. The time has come to turn the tables and achieve your dreams… Why Women are Attracted to Big Muscles We discussed one of the reasons that women aren’t attracted to skinny guys in the last chapter: They don’t want to feel fat and being with a guy who is skinnier than they are makes them feel fat even if they are at their ideal weight. A woman’s self esteem is a delicate thing. They are constantly bombarded with images of what an ideal woman’s figure should be and 99 times out of 100 they just don’t match up to the airbrushed perfect images they see on TV and in magazines and this really bothers them. A woman will spend a good deal of her time and money on things that will make her look better and feel better about herself. She will buy and wear nipping and tucking undergarments no matter how uncomfortable they are. She will spend oodles and oodles on cellulite creams, weight loss pills and the latest exercise DVD sensation. She’s not about to destroy all that hard work by standing next to a skinny guy who makes her look fat by comparison! Beyond her own sense of self esteem, there are evolutionary reasons that a woman is attracted to muscular men. It is actually programmed right into their genes to seek after a strong, muscular man. It has a lot less to do with her thinking the guy looks sexy than you might believe. You see, in the woman’s subconscious is the belief that a strong man will be a better provider for her and her future children. Back in the caveman days, a strong, muscular man would’ve been the best choice for hunting and providing a good source of food for the family. He also would’ve been best suited for defending the family from dangerous predators. Of course, nowadays, a computer geek may be better able to provide financially for a woman, but her genes don’t know that! She can’t help being attracted to those bulging muscles and contoured physique…it’s in her programming! Aside from the subconscious belief that a muscular man will be a better provider and protector is the belief that he will also provide genetically superior offspring. Even though neither men nor women may be thinking in terms of marriage when they are looking for a date on Saturday night, deep down in their subconscious that is what they are thinking about. Even if you are already married, this subconscious programming affects you. Your wife may have been intelligent enough to make her decision about a life partner and his ability to provide for the family on conscious thought, but her subconscious programming still affects the way she views you. There are times you don’t feel as though she respects you as much as she should and that is because you aren’t “as much of a man” as you could be. This also affects your sex life. Even though your wife was attracted toward your personality and character strengths when you got married, she isn’t always as sexually attracted to you as you would like. Having a strong muscular physique would send your wife’s hormones through the roof and you would be getting all the action you could handle…and then some!

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