SELF HELP - ANGER - How to effectively control your ANGER - MOST PEOPLE CAN'T TALK ABOUT THIS!
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Anger Management And Domestic Violence
Anger Management has become highly publicized, and statistics show that one of the most
insidious forms of violence, domestic violence, is on the rise, and the old adage that you hurt the
ones you love proves, all too often, to be true. Men commit 95% of all violent crimes.
Domestic violence is the top cause of emergency room visits by women. During the Vietnam
War, more women were murdered at home than menkilled on the battlefield.
Just like anger management is a learned behavior, so are the cycles of violence that define
domestic violence in all its forms.
Abuse of marital, or life partners, has seen a steady increase
in all socioeconomic statuses of people everywhere. Child abuse has escalated steadily over
the years, and more and more angry parents are in counseling with equally angry, out of control
children.
It seems clear that better methods of communicating, dealing with the most intimate of
interpersonal relationships, and productive methods of anger management are vital in today’s
world.
Whether you blame violence on television, in movies, in video games, or within the families
themselves, everyone realizes some proactive steps need to be taken to stop the cycle of
violence, and teaching good anger management techniques seems to be the most popular
choice to accomplish that task.
Domestic violence often has its root in men with low self-
esteem, who over react to imagined wrongs and rejections, and is most prevalent in homes of
young, unskilled males, who are substance abusers.
It is never right for anyone to be abused. Many female victims of spousal abuse are often
coerced into believing they are to blame for the violence against them, but nobody deserves to
be abused.
Everyone deserves to live and be safe, and any victim of domestic violence should
seek legal and professional help centered in positive anger management techniques.
Anger Management And Reinforcing Negative Behavior
Poor anger management leads to violence, and violence has a way of getting out of control,
until it takes control of the lives of everyone involved.
Reinforcing negative behaviors by
rewarding a person's verbally abusive behavior (allowing it, excusing it and returning to things
as usual) will increase such behavior.
When family members indulge the aggressive person,
their violent tendencies not only remain, they are known to actually allow the person’s poor
anger management to escalate to more serious, or harmful behaviors, and can ultimately
escalate into physical violence.
When angry people learn there won’t be consequences for inappropriate behavior, they can
continue without fear of reprisal. Children, who grow up in this type of family dynamic, learn by
modeling this destructive behavior.
The cycle of poor anger management continues, because children in dysfunctional families
learn at an early age that, to get what they want, it is okay to destroy things, and hurt others.
A very prevalent dynamic in abusive relationships is guilt and remorse for angry outbursts,
followed by begging forgiveness and promising to change, but in the absence of help in
developing good anger management skills, the cycle continues, and, since the negative
behavior is reinforced, and there are no consequences for the negative behaviors, the violence
escalates.
Some people who get angry just cannot talk about the problem.
This type person emotionally
distances themselves to take care of their anxiety, while the others involved need to talk to bring
about closure, so they can deal with their own anxiety related to the anger and outbursts with
which they are faced.
These relationships feed on cycles of violence that progressively escalate
until the family unit falls apart, or they are forced to seek help, by loved ones, or the judicial
system, to develop good anger management skills.
Anger Management And Substance Abuse
Anger that comes out when someone is drinking or high on drugs can be extremely destructive.
Never, should you try to talk to, or reason with, or argue with someone who is under the
influence of alcohol or drugs.
Inebriated people are unable to process information correctly
through the haze of alcohol and/or drugs.
Substance abuse impairs decision making, and
inhibitions and result in the loss of patience. If you are in an altercation with someone under
the influence of any substance, leave and do not return until the individual is sober.
A steadfast
rule should be to never stay around to be abused by someone who is out of control with alcohol
or drugs.
If you are closely involved with someone who has an abuse problem related to substance abuse
or misuse, learn from people who have been where you are now–in relationships with angry
people with abusive tendencies related to substance abuse.
People in the twelve step
programs have been on the front line of your problem. These self-help groups offer your free
education about the types of problems that you are facing.
Look for a program where you feel
comfortable, and make a choice based on where you feel you get the most support, and the
information and encouragement to take proactive measures to make sure you are not in harm’s
way.
Once the person is calm and sober, then they should be confronted with their substance abuse
and related Anger management issues.
Substance abuse counseling, treatment, and anger
management training can benefit people with substance abuse related anger control problems,
but the bottom line is, you have a responsibility to yourself and those you love to separate
yourself from such a person until they get help both for their substance abuse problems and
their anger management issues.
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